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To those I offended … to be clear
May 31, 2020
Julie Shematz 2 comments

To those who I offended ... to be clear,

If you were one of the persons who read my facebook post (5/28/20) and were offended, hurt, or it upset you, please accept my apology. I’m sorry, my intentions were not to hurt you at all and I recognize that it was considered insensitive. I truly am sorry that my actions may of triggered, angered, frustrated, and hurt you. Please forgive me. For those of you who reacted without love towards me, please know that I’ve forgiven and love you. ~ Julie

To clarify, I received over a hundred comments on my facebook timeline in reaction to a post that basically stated my belief

(actually the way my single mother taught me) that disobeying the law and resisting arrest increases the possibility of physical injury and/or death and that it isn’t necessarily racism. The disturbing outcome included emotional reactions, logical fallacy, name calling, false allegations, jumping to conclusions, bias, prejudice, stereotyping, disassociation from me personally and the ministry, arguing, slander, defamation of character, public shaming and racist comments towards me and others. I will add that there was only one person who took the time to private message me about it and that many of the persons who were commenting so rudely that I don’t even know. I know of them, but they have never or rarely ever commented on anything else that I’ve posted. So, literally, out of the blue, (I posted early evening and hadn’t been back in nearly 24 hrs) I discovered the frenzy, to which I decided to not react, but to spend time in the Word, praying and seeking wisdom as to whether or not, or how to respond. Even after I wrote this blog, I have waited 3 days before making it live.

I think I’ll start here. I purposely do not engage in arguments or debates, especially on social media because they are potentially dangerous emotionally, mentally, and spiritually for all involved. I also have established strong boundaries on my facebook timeline regarding arguments, name calling, personal attacks, etc., which most disagreements result in, sadly. I have a no tolerance guideline for abuse and will block someone if they choose to engage in such behavior on my timeline. However, I’m perfectly comfortable agreeing to disagree with someone without any hard feelings, because I don’t take it personally that they don’t agree with me. I’m also not going to try to manipulate or try force them into agreeing with my perspective and beliefs.

Now, I should probably add in here that I’m 55 years old and it’s taken me over 25 years of transforming my mind with the Word of God (the Bible), years of biblical counseling and training, 16+ years assistance from a professional helper aka licensed clinical social worker, 17+ years of marriage, as well as my experience and graduate school education as a mental health counselor. It’s taken a LONG TIME to get me to not take it personally and become seriously offended, when someone doesn’t agree with me.

My interest in better understanding people’s behaviors, in order to help them more effectively, is what led me to go to graduate school to be a mental health counselor. I’m OK with agreeing to disagree, however it’s obvious, evidenced by the emotionally driven comments and posts seen on social media, that a lot of people are not alright or comfortable with this concept of respect and peace.

I add respect because it is respectful when you can accept another person’s opinion, position, and even attitude, though you don’t agree with it. It’s also considered a sign of maturity and an indication of unresolved woundedness and trauma when you lash out at someone because they don’t believe the same way you do.

It appears to me that we exist in a society in which the concept of being respectful is diminishing.

It’s almost as if some people are just looking for an excuse to attack, unfriend, throw shade at your accomplishments, even your testimony, publicly shame you, all because they don’t like what you’ve said or done in a 4 sentence post or tweet. I have come to learn that such divisive, abusive, and aggressive behavior towards anyone tells more about the person that does it, than the person they have targeted.

I thank God for the tests and trials I’ve endured where I was unfairly targeted, abused, taken advantage of, assaulted, misunderstood, rejected and abandoned that prepared me to forgive unconditionally. Though very painful initially, I’m grateful that they, coupled with my experience as a counselor, have resulted in me having more empathy and understanding towards persons that display such behavior at me and others. I once viewed persons who did this to me as enemies, but not anymore. The countless situations in which I was treated unjustly were opportunities for me to grow, for such a time as this.

So, to be perfectly clear on my beliefs and opinions, surrounding the current racially tense and emotional environment our country is in, and in response to comments on my facebook page, please note the following.

  • George Floyd’s death was wrong.
  • Racism is wrong.
  • Police brutality is wrong.
  • Riots and looting are wrong.
  • Name calling/verbal, mental, and emotional abuse are wrong.
  • Jumping to and making false conclusions is wrong.
  • Bias, labeling, slandering, and defamation of character is wrong.
  • Injustice is wrong.
  • Breaking the law is wrong.
  • Resisting arrest is wrong.
  • Angry mobs are wrong.
  • Bullying is wrong.
  • An unwillingness to look at situations from different perspectives is wrong.
  • Throwing shade on someone, their accomplishments, experiences, and testimony because you don’t like something they posted on social media is wrong.
  • Gossip is wrong.
  • Public shaming is wrong.
  • Not being mature enough to try to understand someone before making broad conclusions is wrong.
  • It’s wrong when you say we need to come together to end an injustice, yet you’re not even willing to have a conversation or listen to other points of view.
  • It’s wrong to think that your perspective and opinion are always right.
  • It’s wrong to think that anyone who doesn’t agree with you is an enemy.
  • Thinking that all [any race, culture, occupation, etc.] are bad is wrong.
  • Jealousy is wrong.
  • Unforgiveness is wrong.
  • Sin is wrong. 

Since all have sinned and are falling short of the honor and glory which God bestows and receives. [All] are justified and made upright and in right standing with God, freely and gratuitously by His grace (His unmerited favor and mercy), through the redemption which is [provided] in Christ Jesus … (Romans 8:23-24 AMPC).

I hope everyone reading this is safe. Know that you are seen. You are heard. You matter and you are loved. I’d love to hear from you and how you handle being treated unjustly/unfairly.

How are you doing with the protests and riots nationwide? Always remember that we can learn by listening to each others stories and validating their feelings from the experience. We have to be willing to be wrong and teachable though, and not have the mindset that if you don’t see things the way I do, I don’t respect and value you, in order to be a part of the solution to end racism. I’ll be posting on my thoughts regarding George Floyd and white privilege soon, so be sure to watch for it. Get registered to receive them in your inbox and please share. Catch me on social media if you wanna chat. I check it more than I do my email. Stay safe! You matter

I pray we all have softened hearts, especially towards those we might not understand, like, or even those we want to hate. I pray for reconciliation, forgiveness, unity, harmony and peace. I pray we love God and one another according to scripture empowered by the Holy Spirit. I pray we humble ourselves and that our faith in God be increased. I pray we have a hunger and thirst for God’s presence and would slow down and spend time studying His Word. I pray we help be part of the solution to racism and sin and not contribute to it. Bless those that hate, curse, and despise us, Lord. Thank you, Lord, that everything works together for the good to those who love you and are called according to your purpose. Thank you, Lord, that what was meant for evil you turn around for our good and your glory. In the name of Jesus Christ, amen. 

I love and appreciate each of you.

God bless you!

1 IF I [can] speak in the tongues of men and [even] of angels, but have not love (that reasoning, intentional, spiritual devotion such as is inspired by God’s love for and in us), I am only a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.

 

2 And if I have prophetic powers (the gift of interpreting the divine will and purpose), and understand all the secret truths and mysteries and possess all knowledge, and if I have [sufficient] faith so that I can remove mountains, but have not love (God’s love in me) I am nothing (a useless nobody).

 

3 Even if I dole out all that I have [to the poor in providing] food, and if I surrender my body to be burned or in order that I may glory, but have not love (God’s love in me), I gain nothing.

 

4 Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.

 

5 It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].

 

6 It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.

 

7 Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening].

 

8 Love never fails [never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end]. As for prophecy (the gift of interpreting the divine will and purpose), it will be fulfilled and pass away; as for tongues, they will be destroyed and cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away [it will lose its value and be superseded by truth]. 1 Corinthians 13:1-8 AMPC (emphasis added)
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Hurt and Healing
11 Mar 2019
Julie Shematz one comments

“Don’t let the person who hurt your heart mess up the One sent to heal it! #letitgo”, Paula White. 

2019, Paula White facebook fan page.

Matthew 5:22 says that in God’s eyes being angry with someone in our hearts is the same as murdering them. 

We all know that do not murder is in the big Ten Commandments.

By remaining angry towards someone, we give satan a way (aka: open door) to creep into our lives. It’s only by the grace of God that he doesn’t take us out. Don’t ever forget that that is his ultimate goal.

Anger can steal our joy, take away our fun and steal our opportunities. Anger makes us bitter, struggle with vain imaginations, and can literally drive us crazy

Forgiveness is so critical … it boils down to life and death; spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and even physically. Many of us suffer with ailments whose root is unforgiveness.

Unforgiveness is rooted in pride.

It has the potential to steal, destroy and kill us. It’s vital that we choose to forgive those who have wounded us, whether it was intentional or unintentional. I realize that some of us have been severely wounded by betrayal, but there are no exceptions to the command that we are to love our neighbors as ourselves and that means forgiving everyone who has ever hurt us. 

God’s grace will enable us to do this, if we lean on it, rely on Him, depend on, have faith in and believe in Him to do it.

Our sins are literally not forgiven unless we forgive others.

Choose today who you will serve. Choose life or chose death. Either way, it’s your decision and regardless of which we choose, we will reap the consequences of that decision. I appeal to you, to choose life and life abundantly. Let it go. #EmbracetheJourney. It’s time to move on, be healed, and fulfill your God given destiny. God loves you more than we’ll ever likely completely be able to comprehend and He’s got a good plan to prosper you and to give you hope. Let His love cover and heal those wounds.

Lord, help us to forgive those who have wounded us and give us the courage we need in order to go to them, if it’s your perfect will to do so. We thank you for your grace, for forgiving us of all of our sins and that you throw them as far as the east is from the west and remember them no more. We thank you that your grace is sufficient and that we can do all things through you, who make us strong when we are weak. Thank you for your amazing, extravagant, and relentless love. Help us to understand it more today than ever. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

If you’re new here, WELCOME! I’m really honored that so many people are signing up to receive my blog … actually shocked, but really grateful. I apologize that there appears to be no comment button. We’re trying to get one put in, however if you simply hit return after entering your comment, I’m pretty sure it will come through. Yes, I’m screening them. This is not a place for controversy and drama. I’ve learned to have very strong boundaries over the years, not just to protect my emotional health, but those who are trusting me to be in their sphere of influence. This blog’s purpose is to be a safe place for encouragement, spiritual enlightenment, growth and healing. I hope to inspire you to walk in the fullness of your destiny and to encourage you in the lavish love our Creator and His Son, Jesus Christ. 

If you’d like to connect with me to do bible studies together, I’m on YouVersion. I’m hosting a free online art class now every Tuesday 9-10am EST through a closed group on facebook, Art With Julie Academy. Feel free to send me a DM for the password. I’m posting daily on my instagram, twitter and facebook fanpage, JulietheArtist. Check out the stories for the latest in creations from my art studio and day to day activities around the ranch. I’d love to connect with you. If you need prayer, please don’t hesitate to contact me! If you’re an intercessor and feel called to pray for my husband and I and all that God has entrusted to us, please send a request to join our closed facebook group, Beauty From Ashes™ Ministries Prayer Team

Above all, know that you’re, loved, valued, and cherished, and that your life has a very special place in the purposes of God! If you’re holding onto unforgiveness, LET IT GO! God will enable you to do, if you allow Him to. He’ll turn the ashes of your life into beauty, if you allow Him to. But it’s on His terms, not ours! We simply gotta trust and obey. 

In His lavish love and amazing grace,

Forgiveness, Matthew West (video)
Stand in Your Love, Bethel Music and Josh Baldwin (video)

25 So Discard every form of dishonesty and lying so that you will be known as one who always speaks the truth, for we all belong to one another.
26 But don’t let the passion of your emotions lead you to sin! Don’t let anger control you or be fuel for revenge, not for even a day. 27 Don’t give the slanderous accuser, the Devil, an opportunity to manipulate you!
Ephesians 4:25-27 TPT

Confidence and strength flood the hearts of the lovers of God who live in awe of Him, and their devotion provides their children with a place of shelter and security. To worship God in wonder and awe opens a fountain of life within you, empowering you to escape death’s dominion.

Proverbs 14:26-27 TPT

22 But I’m telling you, if you hold anger in your heart toward a fellow believer, you are subject to judgment. And whoever demeans and insultsc] a fellow believer is answerable to the congregation. And whoever calls down curses upon a fellow believer is in danger of being sent to a fiery hell.

Matthew 5:22 TPT

Shelley Lubben: The good, bad and ugly, Part II
20 Feb 2019
Julie Shematz one comments

Part II: Wounds in need of healing.

Ten symptoms that indicate wounds that are in need of being healed: 

  • You avoid specific places.
  • You avoid certain people.
  • You have made a silent inner vow.
  • You suffer from emotional triggers.
  • You engage in addictive behaviors or have an unhealthy attachment.
  • You wound others.
  • You experience ongoing, unresolved grief.
  • Your thoughts bully you.
  • You have a secret you’ve never told anyone.
  • You struggle to verbalize your hurt.

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